When you are facing someone that you love – looking at them as if you were looking in a mirror – what do you see? Do you see their flaws or their judgements? Do you experience their past pains or their burdens? – or – Do you see the love that you posses for them and what they mean to you? Do you experience the unconditional acceptance of their life and trails, and the positive feeling that you get when you are around them?
Chances are, most people will experience the latter when looking at another person for whom they care. Yet, we tend to experience the former when looking at ourselves. Why can’t we look into the mirror and experience for ourselves that same unconditional love when we look at others? Why do our outside looks often determine our inside feelings (when really that manifestation is the opposite)? Why does it matter how skinny, fat, muscular, tall or short we are; how our hair, eyes, or skin look; or how smart or “stupid” we may come off?
It is important to notice what we wish to better, and at the same time we must understand that those betterments will come with awareness, subtle efforts, and in due time. Life is a progression. We cannot push, force, expect, or limit self to be anything else, but self.
More importantly, we must accept self for who we are, how we came to be, and who we wish to be. An unconditional acceptance of self requires the understanding that you are perfect. Look in a mirror and see yourself through the “eyes” of your heart – not your ego, not your past, and not your pain.
We put material or physical perfection on a pedestal. We yearn for it, yet when we think we have achieved it, we only want more. Perhaps we spend a lifetime trying to be perfect and can never quite get there because of expectations (personal boundaries). It’s also possible that we try to be the opposite of perfect, when in reality, we are trying to be perfectly opposite. That type of outward perfection will never satisfy us and will actually drive us further away from our true self. In order to achieve what we truly need in this life – not what we want or what society, family, friends tells us what we want – we must find self love by going within.
But, what if you don’t think that you’re perfect? What if you don’t know how to accept or love yourself? I can only provide you with this perspective…
Are you happier, healthier, more understanding, more accepting, and more open when you do or do not love yourself?
Start loving. Start living. Start being who you’ve always wanted to be. Start looking in the mirror and see the lion inside of you.
“It takes a lifetime to achieve greatness, but it only takes one day to quit.”