Life can get crazy. It happens when we have to balance work, school, family, relationships, social events, exercise, diet, hydration, sleep, me time, and the list goes on. The best approach to prioritizing is to make your priorities… a priority.
- Below you will find a wheel with 15 spokes and 5 circles
- Each end of a spoke represents your priorities in life
- Each wheel represents the attention that you provide each priority on a daily basis (some may be weekly or monthly)
- Write a priority above each spoke
- Rate the priority by the attention it receives with a dot at the intersection point of a specific spoke and affiliated circle
- Inner Circle = Least attention, Outer Circle = Most attention
- Draw a line to connect each dot – does it make a [somewhat] rounded circle?
- A wheel cannot turn fluidly unless all of its spokes are well-taken care of, straight, and balanced
- This will help put your current life into perspective
- This will help you become aware of what needs more attention than others
The above diagram is a generalized example. Notice how all of the spokes are not balanced and the wheel cannot turn fluidly? Now you try…
- The Ego is the opposite of your real Self.
- The Ego is not you.
- The Ego is the deception created by the society so that you can go on playing with the toy and never ask about the real thing.
- Unless you drop the Ego, you’ll never come to know your true Self.
- When you were born you had your authentic Self then [society] started creating a false Self.
- You are Christian. You are Catholic. You are white. You are black. You are German. You are Irish. You are the chosen race of God. You are supposed to rule over the world.
- [Society] creates a false idea of who you are – they give you a name and around the name they create ambitions, conditionings, and rules to bind by.
- It takes 1/3 of your life working on your Ego – school.
- By the time you come back from University you have forgotten your innocent being – you are now a very big Ego – “now, you are ready to go into the world” as if the world doesn’t being when we are born.
- This Ego has all the desires and ambitions. It wants to always be on the top of everything. It never allows you even a glimpse of your real, authentic Self.
- The Ego only produces misery, suffering, fighting, frustration, madness, martyrdom, crime, loneliness, running, pushing, confusion, misunderstanding, selfishness.
- A seeker of truth has to begin from this very point – whatever you have been told by society must be discarded.
- Nobody can know who you are except for yourself – not your parents, teachers, priests, friends, or loved ones.
- Except for yourself, nobody can enter in the privacy of your Being.
- Nobody knows about you – whatever is said is all wrong – put it aside.
- Dismantle the Ego – in destroying the Ego you will discover your Being.
- The discovery of your Being is the greatest discovery possible – it starts a totally new pilgrammage towards ultimate bliss, towards eternal life.
- You can choose frustration, suffering, misery – go on holding the Ego, nursing it.
- Choose silence and bliss, and recover your innocence.
I received this question tonight (Thursday, the 26th) and since it seems like a time-is-of-the-essence situation, I decided to push back my other queued posts and give this Friday’s spotlight…
What would you do if you had a very irresponsible, self-centered roommate? One that does not take his/her part in chores and cleaning. It is almost the end of the semester and we have not spoken for quite a long time now, mostly because of this behavior. Is it too late to say something? I know I should’ve said something earlier, but you know, life happens and now we’re getting ready to leave.
Irresponsibility or self-ceneteredness are merely symptoms of a bigger cause… and those are only your experiences of your roommate – not the definition of your roommate. It is unfair of you to label your roommate just based on your experience of him/her without knowing his/her true self or personal battles. Yes, it is also unfair to you if they are being selfish and do not contribute to the understood equal partnership of living together, but consider that he/she may have a very good personal reason as to why they only seem to care about themselves, why they are introverted, or why they have placed barriers between themselves and the world around them.
What’s the true issue here?
Communication… or a lack thereof.
Communication is an important part of any relationship.
Communication can provide a continuous exchange of ideas, thoughts, feelings, emotions, wants, and needs – that exchange is positive. You will not always agree with one another, but the experience of talking will encourage you to understand one another and move forward to better the relationship.
Silence can encourage barriers, [unrealistic] expectations, assumptions, judgements, and can bring a negative energy to a relationship (or even a room).
You are experiencing a misunderstanding and the best way to understand one another is to talk. I don’t necessarily mean to talk about it, but to just… talk.
The chores are a symptom of a bigger cause of not talking to one another or misunderstanding one another.
- Lead by example.
- Create small talk.
- Show him/her your trust, your openness, your friendliness, your forgiveness, and your acceptance by merely taking an interest in their life, sharing experiences of your own life, and encouraging them to be a part of yours.
- Be friendly, not over-bearing.
- Be patient, not pushy.
- Be open, not expecting.
- Trust that what you give you will receive in return.
- Walls will never exist in a relationship if no one has a reason to build them.
After some time, if your roommate does not want to communicate nor involve themselves in genuine, open conversation then I would suggest that you move on with your efforts. It may be hard, but it’ll be for the best. Everyone is traveling along on their own path and on their own time doing the best that they can, and sometimes we just have to leave people to be and do things their way. We can only hope that those who are lost amongst their inner battles will come around to find themselves one day.
All that you can ask of yourself is that you do your best and that you are genuine.
People have 12 bagillion things on their daily to-do lists from the moment they wake up to the second they hit the sheets – and even then they’re probably scrolling through twitter, facebook, and answering texts on their phones. Sometimes we push back our bedtime or cut it short so we can finish our work, watch a tv show, go out with friends, read a book, talk on the phone, etc. Do we even consider what effect sleep, or the lack thereof, has on our body?
Sleeping is the only way our body can regenerate itself every day. Think of your body as a handheld vacuum cleaner (stay with me on this one)… It must be fully charged to get the full “sucking power” out of it. So you plug it in (for the sake of this example) for 8 hours to get optimal suck. It charged over night, you wake up the next morning, and start vacuuming on a fully charged battery. You notice that it’s running as it’s supposed to – full power and picking up every cat hair in its path. After a bit you notice it begins to lose some steam. You brush it off and try to finish the job on the battery life that’s left because you know that your girlfriend is coming home soon and she asked you to vacuum (scare tactics). Well soon enough the thing is on its last leg, it sounds like a dying walrus, and you still have more than half of the apartment to clean (let’s pretend it’s a really big apartment and you only have a handheld vacuum). You plug it in for 10 minutes for the sake of time, and it seems like it has a lot of juice when you turn it on, but not even a few minutes later it just craps out on you. You realize that you should have plugged it in half-way through for a good amount of time to let it recharge and rebuild the energy needed to fully finish the job. Now you have to deal with a half-dirty apartment and an annoyed girlfriend.
Ok, I realize that’s a little whacky but I hope that you catch my drift. We need a solid 8 hours to function optimally. Those hours are crucial for our body to literally recharge, rebuild, and regenerate itself for another day. We can’t get by on full-steam ahead all the time nor can we accomplish anything to our full potential on a half-ass recharge (aka coffee/stimulants). The body renews cells, tissue, muscle, enzymes, bacteria, you name it and the body replaces it – BUT it best do this when it’s recharging.
Not sleeping enough can have an effect on our daily lives (thought, movement, digestion, energy, etc.) and our daily lives can have the same effect on our sleep! It requires a sense of balance - wants vs needs, priorities vs moderate.
Now, the word Priority can have some grey area because everyone has their own definition of what is important to themselves. I believe this is where people get lost. Some may not see sleep as a priority and that can cause a problem. It’s only up to us to understand the value that sleep (and getting enough sleep at the right time) brings to our lives.