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Written version: self-understanding and healthy results

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Happy TUESDAY interntians,

I took a bit of a leap for this week’s blog-o-the-week by posting a video blog… of me… standing in front of a camera… shirtless… and headless (I blame the camera guy who’s name we won’t speak but it starts with a J and ends with a D)… rambling on about how I was able to achieve a resulted body as a manifestation of my mind. Idiot-approach aside, I sound like a professional wrestler during a pre-fight interview who just thinks he’s the shit. Not my intention + poor delivery = May have come off that way. So, by the looks of my daily hits, I’m ballparking that the video didn’t go over well. It didn’t go over well not because I look like a jackass. No. It didn’t go over well because I realized today… Monday… the same day that said blog was posted… that people enjoy my blog because of my WRITTEN perspectives… not my spoken perspectives. I’m certainly better behind the keyboard than my projected voice and shirtless attire (my stylist is on vacation). And, in the past, I’ve been told from peers that my blog is an easy and enjoyable read on the way to work or during down time. You would think something would click prior to a trip to devalue-city? Not this guy. I realized that I need to stick to what I’m good at, which is delivering an eloquent hot-mess every monday as a pile of words with a side of boomshakalaka. Plus, I can’t look past the fact that these days, without a decent established viewer demographic, AIN’T NOBODY GOT TIME FOR AN 8-MINUTE MARATHON VIDEO.

Ahem, the written version:

The purpose of my video was to put an image to the author, to put my talk into my walk, to physically portray how I am able to manifest my thoughts into a physical reality… a.k.a standing shirtless and talking about myself… and elaborate on  that manifestation: I achieved my healthy results by simply understanding myself, what I’m all about, why I’m all about, and what makes me… me. Obviously that understanding wasn’t really all-that-simple over the past however-many years, but I did eventually put into perspective the opposite of simple… complicate. I learned to stop complicating things, which then opened the doors for simple as a more direct path to the results and happiness that I desire. If I’m not complicating I can only be simplifying! For years I complicated the hell out of what I thought “health” was. My biggest issue was that I thought health was an external achievement, i.e. physique, diet, and exercise programs. No way in hell did I ever consider my current mental and emotional state nor the years of buried mental and emotional states that play an important role in this sweet life-o-mine. I constantly reached out externally, neglecting the ONLY thing that mattered in a pursuit of health… mahself. Along this pursuit I learned some things. I learned a few life lessons. I learned different ways of thinking that shed light on things that have been in the dark for years. I learned that I need to be happy with myself on the inside in order to be happy with myself on the outside. I learned that I am an absolute asshole when I think I’m right and that there’s only my way or the highway. I learned who I am by clarifying why I am sans [what I thought to be my] reality (hint: self responsibility regarding ev-ery-thin-g). I learned that health is so much more than my physical self!

I did not achieve these results because of a strict diet… I have my definition of healthy and unhealthy foods but I also need to live my life without self-imposed boundaries. “The world can expand when walls do not exist.” (Robert Fritz) I did not achieve these results because of any one superfood… I do have my preference of cooking oil, protein supplement, salt, et cetera but there will never be ONE food that is the be-all-end-all to health. I did not achieve these results because of a specific fitness program… I constantly try out different exercise programs and piece together what works for me, for my goals, and for my lifestyle. I am not healthy because I spend 5+ days in the gym… The world is my gym as long as gravity and my extremities exist.

THIS is how I feel when people see me and immediately inquire about my workout program or diet… Dude, how many days a week do you lift? What program do you do? What’s your diet? I enjoy the look on their face when I say that I might work out 3 days a week (4 at THE MOST), that I’d rather sleep than work out, that I drink soda, I eat bread, I eat full-fat ice cream, I eat saturated fat, I consume sugar, I drink coffee with cream and REAL sugar, I drink whole milk, I drink sugar-infested juice, I eat red meat, I eat fries, or that I rarely eat vegetables. Sure, I went through phases of insane workout programs and strict diets but I do not consider that to be healthy for me at this point in my understanding. I work out sporadically and consume “junk foods” because I truly believe they’re healthy by my definition of “health and happiness.” More importantly, I stopped defining health as just diet and exercise to create a better-fitting idea of what it means for ME to be healthy.

My mentality, my emotional well-being, and my spirituality are far more important than any physicality I possess. My body is nothing without my mind, heart, and spirit. These three are the foundation of my healthy results because THEY are my first priority, because THEY are healthy, because THEY are given the attention that they deserve, and because I have given myself the opportunity to understand why they are so important in my life. My body, my face, and my eyes will always show where my head, heart, and spirit are at.

I know it’s a little short and a bit jumbled, but it’s 1am and there’s 8-minutes worth of jabroni-talk that may have some more insight.

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Weight loss 101

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Happy Monday to yinz,

Losing weight is healthy. It’s really interesting how scaled weight has become this iconic health standard because, apparently so, if we are overweight then we are labeled unhealthy. We have freakin’ weight charts in every doctor’s office that communicate if you are this height then you should be this weight, otherwise something is wrong with you. This tiny little example of societal standards and manipulated norms is what actually screws people up. We are completely fine in the first place until professionals began shoving it down our throats that this is right, this is the way we should live when they completely fail to realize that life should be lived on an individualized basis and not by biased status quo studies that turn health into a math equation all-the-while manipulating the hell out of what it takes to be healthy for you.

Ranting aside, do you know what causes the body to gain weight? Do you know what causes YOUR body to gain weight? We all act/react differently to every single experience and we all store fat in different ways and in different places. A person can store fat if they’re depressed, if they’re angry, if they are exhausted, if they are awake for too long, if they drink too many protein shakes, if they apply a specific deodorant, if a street reminds them of a frightening experience AND a person can store fat in an area of the body that is specifically affected by emotions, grudges, regrets, or shames. Pretty neat, huh? All of this is very important to consider in our individual plight towards better health and it is my goal for today’s post.

In order to understand weight loss and the industry bullshit that surrounds the poor bastard, we need to understand the mechanisms/why’s in which the body can gain or lose weight. We’re up to our eyeballs in misinformation, marketing stunts, biased research studies, and a sheer lack of knowledge of how our bodies work. You want to be in touch with reality? Start with yourself. Because you and only you knows what is best… that is, if you take the time to learn and understand who you are and what you’re all about under a universal reality (no external/personal bias, conditions, judgements, etc.).

Now, for my favorite, over-used word… perspectives!

1) Get healthy to lose weight, don’t lose weight to get healthy – I love this quote, which can be accredited to Josh Rubin of East West Healing & Performance. Why is weight loss the goal when it’s really just a symptom of good health? Why is weight loss the goal when true weight loss, the natural progression and prolonged maintenance due to well-tailored/well-implemented metabolic shifts, cannot be achieved through a quick-fix program or beating yourself into the ground with popular work out dvds? I understand the need for goals or milestones along the way, but weight should not be health-basis-numero-uno. The weight will come off when the body is at a point where it doesn’t need it anymore. I will say that again, the weight will come off when the body is at a point where it doesn’t need it anymore.

2) The body stores fat for protection - Fat is literally a life saver and it’s more or less a result of the body doing damage control. Meaning, if there is a homeostatic imbalance due to some sort disruption – a caloric deficiency, a caloric surplus, too many of the wrong calories, malnutrition, over-exertion (exercise, work, school, relationships, family), lack of sleep, excess mental and physical stressors, environmental toxins/chemicals, emotional trauma, etc. – the body will most likely store fat as a protective reaction (I say most likely so I can note that not everyone reacts accordingly). We are all familiar with the relationship between fat and cholesterol, and that the body produces its own cholesterol, right? Well, an increase in cholesterol production is also a form of protection since cholesterol is actually one of our body’s most powerful anti-oxidants. We all hear that high cholesterol is bad and, while it can be a sort of warning sign, few fail to make the holistic connection as to why it’s elevated without pointing fingers at diet. Got stored fat? Consider what your body is protecting you from (and why you need to store fat). Fat also protects us from the cold! Hooray!

3) Scales mean jack - Because fat weight vs muscle weight vs water weight vs poop weight… DUH. All weight is not created equal and scale cannot differentiate between the three pounds you lost after pooping or the three pounds you lost from sweating your butt off in a sauna (only to be naturally regained by eating and drinking mineral water, respectively). Don’t forget that muscle weighs more than fat and if you are involved in some sort of physical training program with a caloric-sufficient diet, chances are you won’t see that scale budge even though you could be gaining muscle weight while losing fat weight. Our weight fluctuates on a daily basis and it is absolutely not an indicator of [good] health NOR progress. I hear people all the time proclaim, I lost ____ pounds this week! That’s cool and all, but what type of weight did you lose? Maybe that weight loss isn’t permanent and maybe it could be due to an unhealthy result (i.e. stress, suppressed appetite, depression, stimulants, dehydration, etc.). At a recent family party I had a person tell me that they recently lost 30+ pounds. When I asked And how do you feel?… I got… Well, I feel god-awful. *facepalm*

4) Are you even eating enough? - Consider this: the body needs [enough] energy to function. If I limit my daily caloric intake and, thus, deprive my body of the energy it takes to perform tasks at a high efficiency rate and in a timely manner, why the HECK would it think… hey, now is a good time to lose weight… ? Actually, HOW the heck would it have the energy to do such a high-energy-demanding task, which usually requires a higher metabolic rate? THIS is huge when people approach me about weight loss because I often find that they aren’t eating enough calories (any calories) throughout the day for their body to even consider losing weight on top of all the energy it takes to breathe, think, eat, drink, digest, detoxify, poop, pee, move, exercise, sleep, recharge, remember, be creative, and deal with life’s daily stressors. The body ain’t stupid. Having said that, I have had many-a-conversation lately with various peers of mine all umbrella-ing under one classic, underlying theme… People are dumb. I’d also like to point out that sleeping enough is also über important… also. 

5) Diet is a factor, but your food education is, too – This is where misinformation comes into play. We’re taught that saturated fat, cholesterol, red meat, dairy, sugar, starch, salt, soda, and fruit juice (a.k.a. sugar water) are all bad for our health; they will make us SO fat and sick. Instead, we’re taught that unsaturated fats, vegetable/nut/seed oils, wheat, corn, soy, grains in general, copious amounts of vegetables, six to eight daily servings of fruit, beans, lentils, nuts, and seeds are all healthy and will keep us lean. My response to that is… Who says so? The government? The medical system? Please tell me when was the last time you had my best interest at heart and also when it didn’t involve an industrial profit. 

6) Intolerances, allergens, detox issues, poor digestion, malabsorption, deydration – First, I’m going to point some fingers at the over-saturated amount of chemicals and toxins that we are exposed to on a daily basis. We breathe, apply, and come in contact with this crap and it could be a big factor in our body protecting us with fat storage. The chemicals in your deodorant, in your makeup, in the air freshener, in car fumes, in your window cleaner, in your tissues, in your laundry detergent or fabric softener… you name it (actually, if you can’t read it) and it can probably affect your physiology in some way and it can greatly affect the detox system if it’s not already under distress. The same goes for food additives (the gums, the dyes, the non-pharmaceutical grade added vitamins). Then there are food intolerances that make your body think it’s in a war zone every day (this can also spur an auto-immune deficiency). Gluten, for instance, is one major food intolerance that can cause weight gain and people may just think that they need to run a few more miles each day and find out that they just gain more weight (probably due to a grand stress reaction). Which brings me to poor digestion and, thus, malabsorption. You can eat all of the healthy, leaning-out food you want, but if you cannot absorb said food it is possible that your body isn’t getting enough calories to meet its energy demands. Finally, dehydration… I’m hoping this is a no-brainer after reading through my alluding-theme perspectives. Spark that awareness!

7) Exercise smarter, not harder… or not at all – I started Crossfitting about a month ago. Within the first three weeks of going hard I noticed that I began to put weight on around my stomach. I added some muscle mass here and there but I was also adding fat. No, I wasn’t eating too much… I actually wasn’t eating enough to meet the demands I was putting on my body AND this started to affect my sleeping patterns… waking up in the middle of the night, restlessness, resulted dehydration, etc. I thought this was really cool in a weird science-nerd kind of way. I absolutely love the fact that I went through this because it gave me some more perspective into how MY body works, acts, and reacts at this point in my life. Sure, I could have probably done this type of workout and recovered with ease when I was 18 with the endless testosterone running through my body, but I’m not 18. I’m 27 and I’m not as active as I was almost a decade ago. And I say “or not at all” because I hate the stipulation that in order to lose weight exercise is necessary. Any intelligent personal trainer or health enthusiast will tell you that an exercise program will never outwork a poor diet. The diet will always be the foundation and exercise is a complementary component towards your specific goals. No, you don’t have to exercise to lose weight. It helps, but it’s not as important as the media makes it out to be (i.e. the biggest schmuck… I mean, loser). My solution will always be to go smarter by taking the time to sit back, rest, reflect, and look at the big picture of the why and how in respect to my body.

8) Emotions – What your choice of manifestation? Where are you storing yours?

Hopefully you can get the jist that there will never be a one-size-fits all solution nor will there ever be just one solution to a problem that really isn’t a problem at all. Fat storage is a symptom, a mechanism, a safety device, a warning sign, a smaller result of a much bigger picture. It’s not a reason to define yourself, to get down on yourself, to beat yourself up, or to think you’re not pretty enough, not handsome enough, or not fit enough. The body is trying to send you a message and only you can decipher its underlying cause. Don’t believe in the bullshit; believe in yourself.

Happy trails,

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What really matters?

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Happy Monday,

What really matters (in a non-pessimist, non-depressing manner, of course)?

Does a healthy diet matter? Does an unhealthy diet matter? Do calories matter? Does an exercise routine matter? Does being the best matter? Does being the smartest matter? Does being good-looking matter? Does being ugly matter? Does having a job matter? Does winning matter? Does losing matter? Do actions matter? Does the past matter? Does the future matter? Do definitions matter? Do comparisons matter? Do experiences matter? Do opinions matter?

I have to say that a lot of the bullshit we put ourselves through, good bullshit included, means nada, zip, zilch, absolutely nothing. And by bullshit, I simply mean thinking, thoughts, brain thingamajigs.

Our thoughts can easily predict our lives – how we perceive, believe, act, and react to our experiences/personal realities – if we let them. Who controls your thoughts? Y-o-u, you! What can influence your thoughts? Absolutely everything! Who’s gonna win today? We are! Beliefs, perceptions, expectations, assumptions, conditionings, religion, faith, family, friends, diet, hydration, digestion, sleep, physical exertion, physical environment, or that bird outside the window at 5am when you’re just trying to get some f-ing sleep, man! can all influence our thoughts, BUT you ultimately determine how you are affected by those influences and, thus, by your idea of what really matters. This shouldn’t be a new concept to anyone – it’s more of a nudge that says, “Wake up and smell the tunafish, kid.”

Don’t be a puppet. Don’t let your thoughts control you. Don’t write off your thoughts thinking that they’re real when you literally make them up. When we are a puppet of our thoughts by yielding an absolute zero awareness of how we think, why we think, where our thoughts come from, and of all the influential factors being throw at us on a daily basis, we can experience a (possibly never-ending) blindness to what really matters (and also some insight into who we truly are/what we’re all about). Seeing isn’t believing, my franz. Thinking is. You can conjure up anything of your choosing within that imagination of yours and then have it manifest in various ways, i.e. turning the non-physical into physical. I literally sat in my bed the other night and imagined a situation of “What would I do if I encountered a purse-snatcher while on a date.” I thought about the various scenarios where I ran after the thief and the possible outcomes, in my favor and not. With each passing scene, I managed to increase my heart rate more and more, and thus, I increased my blood pressure and my stress hormone response (adrenaline or cortisol) in correlation with my mentality. Shit was nuts, but, more importantly, it was a great perspective experiment into what is [not] actually real.

Diving a little further into this shindig, to hold anything in a state of importance (expectation, attachment, or perceived necessity) may rock the life-boat a bit in the sense that this alleged importance could also bring along a state of unease. Because what happens to that boat when we lose something important or are prevented from its access or even consider the thought of losing said importance? That boat will be swimmin’ with the fishes in no time. I am not saying that nothing in life should be important (or a priority), but what I am suggesting is that maybe some (by some I probably mean most) things aren’t so important after-all. The external foundations, ones outside of ourselves in which we rely upon, believe that we need, or reach outwardly to in times of confusion, are the main factors in this case. Externals will never be able to fill or replace your own two metaphorical feet.

Ok, enough jibber jabber. Let’s have some incorporating-perspectives-practice time: Write down a list of however many things you consider to be important, things that matter to you.

[10-minute recess...]

Chances are the volunteered participants of this great experiment will have an equal amount of similarities as they do differences. Self-love, trust, confidence, understanding, compassion, forgiveness, faith, family, or friends are some of my optimistic predictions for similarities while electronics, clothing, transportation and things-of-the-materialistic-like are my god-help-us-all predictions for differences.

Now, what you have written down (or contemplated)… do they really matter?

Although I am still in the process of learning their (hint: my) value and place, I like to think that I have a pretty good idea of what matters to me at this point in my life. After going through my-reality-of the ringer and being forced to step back to look at my life as a much bigger picture, I am certain that all of the bullshit I once considered to be important does not really matter like I had once thought.

I will leave you all with this… a thought that should raise some eyebrows in regard to my main point of this week’s jibberish: When you leave this miracle, this world, this physical existence… what can you bring with you?

If you’d like to discuss these perspective along with other health-related insights, please contact me for a FREE Conversation.

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The value of listening to yourself

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Happy Monday,

We already know all of the answers to our inner-most questions, desires, or pursuits. The phrase, “the answer is within the question” smacks the ball out of the park when it comes to understanding ourselves, our internal realities, how we got here, who we want to be, and where we want to go.

How did I conclude that? And why am I philosophizing this shiz when there are blatant experiences out there proving that we simply cannot learn without going through the education motions?

Well, what motivates a person to pursue the answers to their questions?

Example time!

Let’s say that my life goal is to be a Marine Biologist. I already know my desired result, but I need to figure out how to get there. Right? I know that I need an education to gain more knowledge about this realm. I know that I need to dedicate so much time studying, experiencing, and understanding to get myself from however many A’s to B’s necessary. I know that I will not become a Marine Biologist overnight and that a damn solid foundation must be built so I can take on anything and everything without being knocked off my horse. I know that no matter how much I know, read, learn, or study that I will always have room to learn more and to possibly unlearn some things that I once believed were truths. I know that it’s not going to be easy but I will not settle for anything less than my ultimate goal. I know that sacrifices will be made, priorities must be balanced, and that life is full of changes that could help or hinder my immediate progress, but never my overall progress. I know that I will be a Marine Biologist.

How do I know all of this?

A person holds their interests, their path, their understandings, their new perspectives, and their new findings or experienced results as valuable. In other words, the path of experiences are a true benefit to one’s livelihood, one’s ultimate happiness, because they just know. Here exists two things: an inner guiding voice and a value of that inner voice. We all have this inner voice. I do think it’s very possible to brush it aside, write it off, think it’s wrong, or simply not listen to it because we fail to see its value in regards to our path. The law of karma, anyone?

Many claim that they don’t know. They don’t know about health, self-image, truth from untruth, perspectives, jobs, careers, financials, or relationships. Hmmm… We can choose to eat “healthier” by following our needs and not wants, we can choose to love ourselves internally that will translate externally, we can choose so see the universal truth of a situation and not just our own filtered perspective, we can choose a job or career that won’t require us to settle for less, we can choose to not over-spend or put such a value on money, and we can choose to love and accept everyone.

I get it. It’s hard when there are so many things getting in our way of listening, especially with the ego, beliefs, conditioning, societal pressures, structures, fears, shames, or hurtful experiences swaying our better judgment. Constricted awareness sounds like it would fit in right about now. Let’s define Awareness as an unconditional thought. To be aware means to be present without bias, prejudice, judgement, or assumption. To be aware means to understand a universal karma; you get what you give. Constricted awareness means to only see one biased side of the picture – your side – and leaves little room for universal truths, universal understandings, following a true path, and, most importantly, self-growth.

We will always know what’s best for ourselves if we just take a second to listen AND take another second hold a personal value to that gut-feeling-know’s-best advice. For example, when people come to me for health perspectives I often find myself telling them after a few exchanges that “you know what’s best for you.” I can throw out all the health advice in the world from diet solutions to posture corrections to abdominal exercises to lifestyle changes to perspective awakenings, but absolutely none of that makes any difference if there isn’t a value placed on one’s own internal voice encouraging them to eat healthier, to sit up straight, to not over-train, to go to bed at beneficial hours, or to stop beating themselves up for not being perfect.

Value, value value, value, value, value your guiding voice. 

If you’d like to discuss this perspective along with other health-related insights, please contact me for a FREE Conversation.

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The times, they are a-changin

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Howdy folks,

Happy September to ya. Northern Hemisphere peoples: That summer flew by rather quickly, huh? Then again… GIMME THAT MID-ATLANTIC REGION FALL WEATHER!!!! If you don’t like the fall then you can get the hell out… I’m serious… this is a fall-weather-hate-free blog.

As you know, I took time off from the writing game with the goal to create an environment to help put some personal realities into perspective. I wanted a break from my routine, from my daily habits, from my surroundings, and from my external influences to free up brain-space so I can process life a little more effectively.

The outcome?

I will no longer post daily blogs. As much as I enjoy writing every single day and the thinking on my feet for a new topic, it’s time for a change. The new protocol will be a blog every Monday at 7:30 AM EST. Once a week will provide me with a platform for the cliche “quality over quantity.” As lame as that sounds, I think it holds a lot of value for my research and writing, and also for the reader’s reading readability.

That news is priority for now. The rest of my “outcome” perspectives will be shared in future posts. Thanks for waiting around for me.

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Political perspectives

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As I was driving down the highway a few days ago, I noticed a rather recent edition to the billboard community. It was a republican-sponsored-Mitt-Romney-backing ad campaign for the upcoming American Presidential election which read…

Obama supports Gay Marriage.
Obama supports Abortion.
Do you?

My initial reaction was an are-you-fucking-kidding-me? laugh. I laughed not because I was raised in a conservative family, not because I was influenced by a liberal high school, city-life, and touring-musician community experience, and not because I frankly don’t give a shit about politics. I laughed at the chosen subject matter; the supposed aha! perspective that’s directed to sway a voter. Out of anything that could have been written – taxes, poverty, unemployment, medicare, global warming, energy efficiency, the food industry, etc. – a group of people chose a subject matter that is completely personal, invasive and, frankly, none of anyone’s God-given-free-right-to-choose-and-live-their-life-they-way-they-see-fit damn business. It’s hard to understand how at least one person had something-along-the-mindset of, “Yep, this is the best idea ever,” but, then again, that hypothetical person could probably say the same thing about my questioning, too.

So I spent the rest of my 30 minute-drive trying to understand what this perspective represents and here’s what I’ve come up with…

As long as there are personal opinions, biased “truths,” self-righteousness, manipulating motives, self-reflective judgements, conditioned assumptions, and habitual/cultural boundaries then this world will never learn to truly love, to take the time to understand, and to unconditionally accept one another.

Politics does not have to be about he-said-she-said-bullshit, about right and wrong, about good or bad, about money and power, or about taking sides. I think the American fore fathers did a noble thing by stating that “Every man was created equal,” but we have yet to see that mindset exist on a universal scale.

Replace hate, greed, selfishness, and personal opinions with unconditional love and see how much “change” is possible.

 

If you’d like to discuss this perspective along with other health-related insights, please contact me for a FREE Conversation.

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Why do we fight?

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Fighting or arguing are outcomes of disagreements, misunderstanding, misinterpretations, assumptions, and judgments. Fighting doesn’t have to occur – ever. There’s no reason to fight, but it happens because… well… people think they’re right and they want to prove that out of a desire, habit, conditioning, or, perhaps, a lack of self. It’s obvious that no one is ever right because that’s just an opinion. Yes, I do believe that there are universals morals, values, trusts, and truths, but, at the same time, not everyone abides by them, is aware of them, nor defines them equally.

So, why do people have to prove anything? Why can’t we just give and take without a bias? That is, give an opinion and take another’s as merely a different opinion, perspective, understanding, or interpretation. It comes down to a personal desire to win. Think about it – winning is totally awesome and we’re taught from day one to not be losers. So, naturally, when it comes to a disagreement we tend to strive for an outcome that favors our opinions. But, do we really win? Does proving another wrong actually make us right?

Why not go for a win/win? Why not go into an argument with a win/win attitude – that no one is right or wrong, that all opinions will be said, heard, AND understood, and that if there still remains a disagreement in the end then a fair compromise or an agree-to-disagree solution should take place. The most important part in this is listening and understanding another person’s opinion or perspective. All-too-often we don’t listen to someone else talk or state their case because we’re too busy disagreeing, judging, assuming, and preparing a rebuttal in our own minds when they have the floor. To be heard and truly understood is one of the greatest feelings and approaches in a disagreement.

Try win/win. Try listening without bias. Try giving and taking equally. Try throwing out any rights or wrongs and understanding the situation for its universal truth. Try to talk peacefully without it resulting in anger, bitterness, or resentment.

 

If you’d like to discuss this perspective along with other health-related insights, please contact me for a FREE Conversation.

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Find a heart that will love you at your worst and arms that will hold you at your weakest

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I recently came across this quote and my immediate reaction was an internally soft and simple, “Yes.” It landed oh-so-well because, to me, it represents so much more than what it says…

Connection, perspective, understanding, patience, balance, giving, trust, faith, support, forgiveness, and unconditional love.

These qualities are very important to have in a soulmate, a friend, a family member, and all-the-more important to have in self.

 

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Are you color blind?

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Do you see the world in black and white? Do you observe the world in black and white? Do you consider situations to be black and white? Do you take perspective on the grey?

Yeah, we’re not talking about the physiological trait that allows people to see the world only in the absence of color and the blending of all colors. I’m talking about your perspectives, experiences, understandings, and opinions on life.

  • Black and white – One or the other in a given situation, right or wrong, one way or the highway, take without giving.
  • Grey – An understanding that there’s more to a situation, no one is right nor wrong, an attempt to hear all sides to gain perspective, giving and taking.

The grey represents the ability to see the details: our conditioning, our programming, our influences, our education, our reasonings, our inspirations, our habits, our intelligence, our beliefs, our nutrition, our genetics, our environment.

The black and white can be the result of those details…

For instance, when a person is steadfast in their claim that a chair is black they could be very well fueled by their details: an education that taught them that “black” is actually navy blue to the rest of the world; the chair could have been in a dim-light room which made the chair look black, but once a claim is in place there is a conditioning of pride that prevents one to be “wrong;” the person couldn’t have eaten much all day and a lack of calories could have produced a “slower” brain response to think a brown chair is black; or there is a need to be “right” just to prove the other wrong out of spite, influences, habits, beliefs, reasonings, and just all of the above.

I used a very dumbed-down example to illustrate how our personal details can really turn something simple into a complex situation.

There are details to every situation. While it may not always be necessary to look into the details whenever an opinion, decision, conflict, difference, or confrontation arise, it certainly doesn’t hurt to consider them or to put them into perspective. Try to really look into the details of yourself first before you go ahead judging, assuming, or deflecting on others. It may take a while and it may bring up some painful truths, but getting to know yourself for who you have become can help pave the way for who you want to be.

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