What really matters?

Happy Monday,

What really matters (in a non-pessimist, non-depressing manner, of course)?

Does a healthy diet matter? Does an unhealthy diet matter? Do calories matter? Does an exercise routine matter? Does being the best matter? Does being the smartest matter? Does being good-looking matter? Does being ugly matter? Does having a job matter? Does winning matter? Does losing matter? Do actions matter? Does the past matter? Does the future matter? Do definitions matter? Do comparisons matter? Do experiences matter? Do opinions matter?

I have to say that a lot of the bullshit we put ourselves through, good bullshit included, means nada, zip, zilch, absolutely nothing. And by bullshit, I simply mean thinking, thoughts, brain thingamajigs.

Our thoughts can easily predict our lives – how we perceive, believe, act, and react to our experiences/personal realities – if we let them. Who controls your thoughts? Y-o-u, you! What can influence your thoughts? Absolutely everything! Who’s gonna win today? We are! Beliefs, perceptions, expectations, assumptions, conditionings, religion, faith, family, friends, diet, hydration, digestion, sleep, physical exertion, physical environment, or that bird outside the window at 5am when you’re just trying to get some f-ing sleep, man! can all influence our thoughts, BUT you ultimately determine how you are affected by those influences and, thus, by your idea of what really matters. This shouldn’t be a new concept to anyone – it’s more of a nudge that says, “Wake up and smell the tunafish, kid.”

Don’t be a puppet. Don’t let your thoughts control you. Don’t write off your thoughts thinking that they’re real when you literally make them up. When we are a puppet of our thoughts by yielding an absolute zero awareness of how we think, why we think, where our thoughts come from, and of all the influential factors being throw at us on a daily basis, we can experience a (possibly never-ending) blindness to what really matters (and also some insight into who we truly are/what we’re all about). Seeing isn’t believing, my franz. Thinking is. You can conjure up anything of your choosing within that imagination of yours and then have it manifest in various ways, i.e. turning the non-physical into physical. I literally sat in my bed the other night and imagined a situation of “What would I do if I encountered a purse-snatcher while on a date.” I thought about the various scenarios where I ran after the thief and the possible outcomes, in my favor and not. With each passing scene, I managed to increase my heart rate more and more, and thus, I increased my blood pressure and my stress hormone response (adrenaline or cortisol) in correlation with my mentality. Shit was nuts, but, more importantly, it was a great perspective experiment into what is [not] actually real.

Diving a little further into this shindig, to hold anything in a state of importance (expectation, attachment, or perceived necessity) may rock the life-boat a bit in the sense that this alleged importance could also bring along a state of unease. Because what happens to that boat when we lose something important or are prevented from its access or even consider the thought of losing said importance? That boat will be swimmin’ with the fishes in no time. I am not saying that nothing in life should be important (or a priority), but what I am suggesting is that maybe some (by some I probably mean most) things aren’t so important after-all. The external foundations, ones outside of ourselves in which we rely upon, believe that we need, or reach outwardly to in times of confusion, are the main factors in this case. Externals will never be able to fill or replace your own two metaphorical feet.

Ok, enough jibber jabber. Let’s have some incorporating-perspectives-practice time: Write down a list of however many things you consider to be important, things that matter to you.

[10-minute recess...]

Chances are the volunteered participants of this great experiment will have an equal amount of similarities as they do differences. Self-love, trust, confidence, understanding, compassion, forgiveness, faith, family, or friends are some of my optimistic predictions for similarities while electronics, clothing, transportation and things-of-the-materialistic-like are my god-help-us-all predictions for differences.

Now, what you have written down (or contemplated)… do they really matter?

Although I am still in the process of learning their (hint: my) value and place, I like to think that I have a pretty good idea of what matters to me at this point in my life. After going through my-reality-of the ringer and being forced to step back to look at my life as a much bigger picture, I am certain that all of the bullshit I once considered to be important does not really matter like I had once thought.

I will leave you all with this… a thought that should raise some eyebrows in regard to my main point of this week’s jibberish: When you leave this miracle, this world, this physical existence… what can you bring with you?

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Don’t complicate things health tips

Happy Monday,

  1. You control your thoughts, your thoughts don’t control you
  2. Listen to your intuition, not your ego
  3. Bring awareness to your decisions/perspectives/experiences by taking the time to understand where your thoughts came from and how they brought you here
  4. Good posture promotes good breathing promotes the flow of inner energy throughout your body 
  5. Drink water when your body tells you
  6. Eat food when your body tells you – don’t complicate it, don’t over-think it, listen to your cravings, and pay attention to your body’s dialogue of what’s good and bad for YOU
  7. Sleep enough hours every single night – do ego-based priorities take charge?
  8. Move enough and rest enough – BALANCE
  9. Experience it, take it in, & let it go – be present within every moment
  10. Your fears are not real, you make that shit up 
  11. Your physicality is a manifestation of the non-physical you
  12. Quiet the mind, quiet the body – take time each day to rest your thoughts
  13. Live YOUR life, not a life of expectations
  14. Be like water, following the path of least resistance – ever-flowing with ease, yet unbreakable
  15. Discover your inner foundation

This began as a short list and it grew to 15, which is still rather short as I’m trying to be fairly general since this is… you know… a blog about not complicating things. Having said that, I must attribute some of these points to stem off of the Chek Institute’s Six Foundational Principles for Health, i.e. Thoughts, Breathe, Hydration, Nutrition, Movement, and Sleep. I enjoy those broad approaches but, of course, I have my own way of doing things… and that, I think, is what is meant to happen when perspectives are shared… 

Take what you need and leave the rest.

I’m not overly-elaborating on any of my aforementioned points because that would, again, negate what I’m going for here. They’re pretty straight forward and are open to your interpretation. If you are stuck on one or do not understand its place in your life, perhaps that’s an opportunity where answers are awaiting your pursuit.

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Sunday wrap up august 12th

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Political perspectives

As I was driving down the highway a few days ago, I noticed a rather recent edition to the billboard community. It was a republican-sponsored-Mitt-Romney-backing ad campaign for the upcoming American Presidential election which read…

Obama supports Gay Marriage.
Obama supports Abortion.
Do you?

My initial reaction was an are-you-fucking-kidding-me? laugh. I laughed not because I was raised in a conservative family, not because I was influenced by a liberal high school, city-life, and touring-musician community experience, and not because I frankly don’t give a shit about politics. I laughed at the chosen subject matter; the supposed aha! perspective that’s directed to sway a voter. Out of anything that could have been written – taxes, poverty, unemployment, medicare, global warming, energy efficiency, the food industry, etc. – a group of people chose a subject matter that is completely personal, invasive and, frankly, none of anyone’s God-given-free-right-to-choose-and-live-their-life-they-way-they-see-fit damn business. It’s hard to understand how at least one person had something-along-the-mindset of, “Yep, this is the best idea ever,” but, then again, that hypothetical person could probably say the same thing about my questioning, too.

So I spent the rest of my 30 minute-drive trying to understand what this perspective represents and here’s what I’ve come up with…

As long as there are personal opinions, biased “truths,” self-righteousness, manipulating motives, self-reflective judgements, conditioned assumptions, and habitual/cultural boundaries then this world will never learn to truly love, to take the time to understand, and to unconditionally accept one another.

Politics does not have to be about he-said-she-said-bullshit, about right and wrong, about good or bad, about money and power, or about taking sides. I think the American fore fathers did a noble thing by stating that “Every man was created equal,” but we have yet to see that mindset exist on a universal scale.

Replace hate, greed, selfishness, and personal opinions with unconditional love and see how much “change” is possible.

 

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Unsaturated fats are toxic to your health

There are a few foods that I tend to denounce as being “unhealthy” these days: 1) Soy because of its anti-thyroid, pro-estrogenic, and anti-digestive properties (GMO or not), 2) Uncooked, raw above ground vegetables due to their high fiber and cellulose content which can slow down bowel transport time (encouraging a feeding and breeding ground for gut bacteria), create inflammation within the intestinal tract due to “poking,” and, of course, cause digestive disturbances, 3) Grains (although some may not be as digestively degrading, such as rice) because of their anti-digestive, pro-inflammatory, pro-allergen, and possible chemical toxicity, and 4) Unsaturated Fats, specifically the existence of any Polyunsaturated variety, because of their high susceptibility to oxidation (exposure to oxygen that can immediately damage the molecular structure), thus creating free-radicals amongst many other immune-suppressing properties (excess estrogen, unstable cell walls, low thyroid response, excess cholesterol levels in the blood, etc.)

Today we’ll focus on Unsaturated Fats from vegetable, seed, and nut oils, and why the H-E-double hockey sticks these stinkin’ things are causing all sorts of dis-eases and cancers despite our being told that “diet doesn’t affect disease” or that “essential fatty acids promote health (hence the name)” or that “saturated fats cause unhealthy cholesterol levels” or that I’m just going to stop there.

The main unsaturated fats involved are found in soybean oil, corn oil, safflower oil, canola oil, sesame oil, sunflower seed oil, palm oil, almond oil, and any others that have any sort of high percentage unsaturated fat content on the label. Chemically, the material that makes these oils very toxic is the polyunsaturated fat itself. (Peat) Polyunsaturated fats are extremely unstable due to their more-than-two double bonds characteristic – the greater the amount of double bonds (and a lack of respective binding hydrogen molecules), the greater the unsaturated, the greater the instability, and the greater risk for oxidation. It is rather impossible to completely eliminate Polyunsaturated Fats from the diet because many of the farm-raised animals that we consume are fed a diet of said fats via soy, corn, and other grains, and vegetable oils are the restaurant industry standard when it comes to cooking oil because it’s cheap and chefs are taught (marketed) to use the oils in culinary school. As in humans, animals will use dietary fat for body processes, conversions, and you name it – one such is to replenish the cell wall and structure. In the late 1940′s, chemical toxins were used to suppress the thyroid function of pigs, to make them get fatter while consuming less food. When that was found to be carcinogenic, it was then found that corn and soy beans had the same antithyroid effect, causing the animals to be fattened at low cost. The animals; fat becomes chemically similar to fats in their food, causing it to be equally toxic, and equally fattening. (Peat)

Let’s get into some why’s…

Digestion and Immunity

“All systems of the body are harmed by an excess of these oils. There are two main reasons for this. One is that plants produce the oils for protection, not only to store energy for the germination of the seed. To defend the seeds from the animals that would eat them, the oils block digestive enzymes in the animals’ stomachs. Digestion is one of our most basic functions, and evolution has built many other systems by using variations of that system, as a result, all of these systems are damaged by the substances which damage the digestive system.”

The enzymes which break down proteins are inhibited by unsaturated fats, and these enzymes are not only for digestion, but also for production of thyroid hormones, clot removal, immunity, and the general adaptability of cells. The risks of abnormal clotting, inflammation, immune deficiency, shock, aging, obesity, and cancer are increased … Since the unsaturated oils block protein digestion in the stomach, we can be malnourished even while ‘eating well.’ 

 Hot vs Cold – Liquid vs Solid – Stable vs Unstable

“The other reason is that the seeds are designed to germinate in early spring, so their energy stores must be accessible when the temperatures are cool, and they normally don’t have to remain viable through the hot summer months. Unsaturated oils are liquid when they are cold, and this is necessary for any organism that lives at low temperatures. For example, fish in cold water would be stiff if they contained saturated fats. These oils easily get rancid (spontaneously oxidizing) when they are warm and exposed to oxygen. When the oils are stored in our tissues, they are much warmed, and more directly exposed to oxygen, than they would be in the seeds, and so their tendency to oxidize is very great. These oxidative processes can damage enzymes and other parts of cells, and especially their ability to produce energy.”

Protective mechanisms

“Seeds contain a small amount of vitamin E to delay rancidity.” (The vitamin is simply used as protection for the plant, just like how humans produce cholesterol or store fat as a protective mechanism. But we’re promoted that the plants, seeds, nuts and their oils contain “nutrients” for human consumption – bullshit!)

“Plants produce many protective substances to repel or injure insects and other animals that eat them. They produce their own pesticides. The oils in seeds have this function. On top of this natural toxicity, the plants are sprayed with industrial pesticides, which can concentrate in the seed oils.”

All systems of the body are harmed by an excess of these oils. There are three main kinds of damage: one, hormonal imbalances, two, damage to the immune system, and three, oxidative damage.”

All of these points from Ray Peat’s “From PMS to Menopause: Female hormones in context” are something to consider… considering we are told that unsaturated fats are healthy, vegetable oils are healthy, saturated fats are unhealthy, saturated fats increase heart disease, to eat more unsaturated oils, eat more corn, eat more soy, eat more wheat and grains, eat less meat, eat less saturated fat, and so the saga continues. There’s a lot of minor details to go into everything, i.e. saturated fats from commercially raised animals tend to be saturated with toxins, chemicals, and are also coupled with toxic unsaturated fats because of their diets. In that case, yes, saturated fats can be harmful, but that’s no reason to go denouncing or eliminating the very substance that keeps us alive on a daily basis from all of the indigestible and immune suppressing substances we have grown up eating.

 

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No one is ever “unhealthy”

Let’s throw out any preconceived notion of what “unhealthy” means. Naturally, people tend to correlate being unhealthy with being overweight (I’ll take Superficial for 200, Alex) so we’ll try to stick to that for simplicity’s sake. Weight gain isn’t unhealthy, nor is any other sort of disorder, dis-ease, or cancer once you understand the body’ s mechanism for survival (and what it takes for them to develop).

Those whom we may deem unhealthy are actually the perfect manifestation of an organism that is adapting to its environment and surviving despite internal or external conditions. Have you ever heard of the term “superbug”? You know, the bacteria strains or insects that literally become resistant from generation to generation to any medications or chemical treatments – they evolve and maintain life simply by adapting to their environment. Humans are much like that, too, only we tend to complicate things so much more with our thoughts, emotions, and beliefs, BUT the autonomic instinctual adaptive mechasnisms will always be there to save us [from ourselves].

When an imbalance occurs the body will do whatever the heck it takes to survive. Those who are overweight, are diabetic, are hypothyroid, are anorexic, et cetera, et cetera, are surviving as best as they can. Given that’s really not a pleasant way to go through life – by trying to exist rather than existing – but that’s how our bodies are designed. It’s quite the most miraculous thing, really. To see an “unhealthy” person walking down the street is a true miracle of life. Their body is literally adapting to every single thing that’s thrown at it, cutting corners any way it can, and still has the energy to wake up the next morning.

Something important to note: adaptation involves energy, and in an “unhealthy” person’s case it is usually created through round-about, impractical ways and, thus, ends up using more energy than necessary. That same process of doing whatever the heck it takes to survive can become a daunting task if the problem is chronic and/or builds upon itself due to the amount of energy the body is able to create and maintain through diet and lifestyle.

If you or a loved one is “unhealthy,” first take some time to appreciate what the body is doing to maintain life. Second, verse yourself in the body’s “protective” and “defense” mechanisms that produce the “unhealthy” (survival) results. Third, research how diet and lifestyle choices affect the body on a hormonal level. And, fourth, bring the body and its hormones back into balance (homeostasis) through a new perspective. If there were a fifth: do your research, do your research, and do some more research.

 

 

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It’s all about metabolism

A higher metabolic rate translates to a higher quality of life. – This guy

What does metabolic rate have to with leading a quality life? Well, everything really. We know that the metabolism is the main calorie-burning epicenter – the body’s ability to turn food into biological energy and heat at a rapid rate AND with efficiency. We know that people like to boost their metabolism with shots of caffeine, energy pills, extracts, protein shakes, amino acids, steroid hormones, and hours in the gym. What good does this all do if the mechanisms which fuel bodily activities are not understood? I mean, why are people constantly taking shots in the dark when they have absolutely no physiological clue as to how their body actually runs, responds, reacts, digests, assimilates, regenerates, rebuilds, eliminates, converts, produces, reduces, or, the all-encompassing, metabolizes? I can take green coffee bean extracts all damn day long because it’s supposed to increase my metabolic rate (so then I’ll burn calories quicker, eliminate body fat, eat whatever I want and be “ok,” etc.), but how do I really know whether or not it’s working?

I’d say the best approach to elevating the metabolic rate is to understand what is actually involved in the metabolism. For starters, metabolism involves hormones and a lot of ‘em. The hormones involved require a balance with one another – within homeostasis. For example, in male’s there must be a greater ratio of Testosterone:Estrogen and in females there must be a greater ratio of Progesterone:Estrogen (yes, excessive estrogen levels for women is actually BAD). When those ratios are imbalanced and there exists a greater amount of [unopposed] Estrogen then the metabolic rate will likely decline because of the anti-metabolic affects of excess Estrogen (which can trigger stress-hormone reactions, hypoglycemia, muscle loss, weight gain, bacterial imbalance, encourage cell division, water retention, and also cause organs to become “sluggish”). We’ll go into Estrogen’s true-colors role within the body in another blog, but my point is to show how a simple imbalance can create an opportunity for a weaker metabolic rate – that is, a weaker functioning body. Other hormones involved include thyroid (T4, T3), pituitary, progesterone, testosterone, pregnenolone, cholesterol, DHEA, estrogen, serotonin (tryptophan), prolactin, insulin, glucagon, cortisol, adrenaline, and aldosterone (to name a few). 

So-to-speak, metabolism fuels the body and hormones fuel the metabolism. So what fuels the hormones? Well, hydration, nutrition, and rest, of course! Let’s keep it simple and focus on nutrition (because I tend to throw in hydration as part of nutrition since water should always have a mineral content, i.e. nutrition). Nutrition can be broken down into two categories: Macronutrients (Fats, Proteins, and Carbohydrates) and Micronutrients (Vitamins and Minerals). Macro’s can be further broken down into Saturated Fats, Monounsaturated Fats, Polyunsaturated Fats, Animal Proteins, Plant Proteins, Simple Carbohydrates, and Complex Carbohydrates. Micro’s go further into Fat-Soluble Vitamins A, D, E, and K, Water-Soluble Vitamins B and C, and Minerals such as Calcium, Copper, Magnesium, Potassium, Sodium, Selenium, Zinc, Iron, Phosphorus, Iodine, and Maganese.

Phew. 

Sleep is next in line as a essential platform to allow your body some time to rest, recover, and rebuild from a day-in-the-life. Whether or not you did anything today, your body is still working, digesting, assimilating, producing, excreting, and being a living organism that’s just trying to do what it needs to do to survive.

Alright, so I have thrown a lot of information at you and your probably waiting on me to tell you to do this, that, and voila – you’re metabolism is as good as new! Well, that can exist and the approach can be viewed as a metabolic recovery rather than a metabolism-boosting scheme (like we’re marketed) because, in my perceived reality of many people whom I interact with on a daily basis, most people are in need of a recovery – to get back what their body used to be, what their body used to be able to do, and how their body used to function with efficiency. Ever hear someone say, “I used to be able to eat that when I was younger” or “I was very active when I was younger so I could eat whatever I wanted.” While those statements may be true of the past, the mindset that the opportunity no longer exists in the present should not hold water. Throughout our American-way lifetime we are bombarded with metabolism-weakening opportunities: gluten, grains, processed foods, unsaturated fats, trans fats (spoiled unsaturated fats), inflammatory proteins, artificial sweeteners, additives, preservatives, chemicals, toxins, heavy metals, alcohol, dehydration, resulted constipation, antibiotics, vaccines, and you name it. It’s no wonder our bodies can’t do it anymore because the metabolic rate, the metabolic processes, and the metabolic efficiency cannot continuously work at top speed because of all the crap we put our body through and put through our body.

Take your body into perspective with metabolism: any physical imbalance is likely a result of a hormonal imbalance which is likely a result of a nutritional/sleep imbalance (minor lifestyle details aside). Boom.

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Question: Why do I bloat after eating?

Question: What do you think about fennel seeds to minimize bloating? More importantly, why do I bloat immediately after eating?

Perspective:

Bloating is an inflammatory reaction. Inflammation can occur for a number of reasons, but its main purpose is to protect the body by producing a thick barrier made of new and sacrificed cells, and thus encouraging the release of white blood cells as a greater immune defense.

Here are some possible situations…

Certain foods can cause an inflammatory reaction because they may be indigestible to irritate the intestinal lining (gluten, wheat, grains, starchy foods, fibrous vegetables), may yield man-made toxic or natural toxic defense materials to cause an immune reaction (phytic acid), or may be allergenic to cause puffiness (gluten, wheat, grains, soy, dairy, caregeenan, gums, and other additives).

There could be an imbalance of intestinal bacteria so there is a constant fight occurring within the digestive tract that will encourage a barrier-reaction to keep bacteria “at bay.” It is very possible for the intestinal tract to become permeable when the body’s defense reactions have become exhausted or over-come, thus allowing bacteria and food to be released into the bloodstream, which causes a greater immune reaction AND allows for bacteria to become systemic. (This is a drastic example, but it is very possible and real for a lot of people who are unaware… it’s called Leaky Gut Syndrome).

Dietary stressors that encourages the increased production of Estrogen, which, in excess, becomes a stress-reactive hormone. This reaction is more of an effect of to any sort of chronic irritant, imbalance, toxin, or foreign (indigestible) material, but it should be considered that this [chronic] hormone release can actually affect many other physiological functions such as thinking, moving, breathing, feeling, and understanding.

Do I think supplementing Fennel Seeds will help? Not entirely because it’s simply treating the symptoms and not necessarily the cause. That’s like taking aspirin for a headache when you haven’t eaten all day. I do think that diet is a very large factor in bodily reactions and should be the first thing taken into perspective and evaluated. I know that Saturated Fats, such as those found in coconut oil and dairy/eggs, are very protective to the intestinal tract as the fats help build stronger cell walls, increase cholesterol production which is a natural anti-oxidant and more cholesterol means more steroid hormones (since it’s a precursor) and the body will be able to handle “stressful” situations with greater ease, and, to keep the list short, the fats aid in metabolic and immune function (which I can go into great detail but we’ll leave it at that).

The best approach to bloating is to gain some perspective on why, when, and how bloating occurs. Take two weeks (a week should suffice but the longer the better) – take two weeks to record a diet and lifestyle journal. The journal will have you write down every single thing that you do and feel before/after throughout the day – from waking up, to bowel moving, to eating, to drinking, to working, to schooling, to exercising, to socializing, to sleeping. It’s much easier to take perspective on what choices help or hinder your health when you write them down on paper AND when you consider your physical and mental states previous, during, and post experience, rather than thinking back to “oh, well on Wednesday I think I ate some rice and I probably felt like shit after because I always feel like shit.” Take a (whole)istic approach to your health – don’t just single out the bloating.

 

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Sunday wrap up august 5th

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Why do we fight?

Fighting or arguing are outcomes of disagreements, misunderstanding, misinterpretations, assumptions, and judgments. Fighting doesn’t have to occur – ever. There’s no reason to fight, but it happens because… well… people think they’re right and they want to prove that out of a desire, habit, conditioning, or, perhaps, a lack of self. It’s obvious that no one is ever right because that’s just an opinion. Yes, I do believe that there are universals morals, values, trusts, and truths, but, at the same time, not everyone abides by them, is aware of them, nor defines them equally.

So, why do people have to prove anything? Why can’t we just give and take without a bias? That is, give an opinion and take another’s as merely a different opinion, perspective, understanding, or interpretation. It comes down to a personal desire to win. Think about it – winning is totally awesome and we’re taught from day one to not be losers. So, naturally, when it comes to a disagreement we tend to strive for an outcome that favors our opinions. But, do we really win? Does proving another wrong actually make us right?

Why not go for a win/win? Why not go into an argument with a win/win attitude – that no one is right or wrong, that all opinions will be said, heard, AND understood, and that if there still remains a disagreement in the end then a fair compromise or an agree-to-disagree solution should take place. The most important part in this is listening and understanding another person’s opinion or perspective. All-too-often we don’t listen to someone else talk or state their case because we’re too busy disagreeing, judging, assuming, and preparing a rebuttal in our own minds when they have the floor. To be heard and truly understood is one of the greatest feelings and approaches in a disagreement.

Try win/win. Try listening without bias. Try giving and taking equally. Try throwing out any rights or wrongs and understanding the situation for its universal truth. Try to talk peacefully without it resulting in anger, bitterness, or resentment.

 

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