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Political perspectives

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As I was driving down the highway a few days ago, I noticed a rather recent edition to the billboard community. It was a republican-sponsored-Mitt-Romney-backing ad campaign for the upcoming American Presidential election which read…

Obama supports Gay Marriage.
Obama supports Abortion.
Do you?

My initial reaction was an are-you-fucking-kidding-me? laugh. I laughed not because I was raised in a conservative family, not because I was influenced by a liberal high school, city-life, and touring-musician community experience, and not because I frankly don’t give a shit about politics. I laughed at the chosen subject matter; the supposed aha! perspective that’s directed to sway a voter. Out of anything that could have been written – taxes, poverty, unemployment, medicare, global warming, energy efficiency, the food industry, etc. – a group of people chose a subject matter that is completely personal, invasive and, frankly, none of anyone’s God-given-free-right-to-choose-and-live-their-life-they-way-they-see-fit damn business. It’s hard to understand how at least one person had something-along-the-mindset of, “Yep, this is the best idea ever,” but, then again, that hypothetical person could probably say the same thing about my questioning, too.

So I spent the rest of my 30 minute-drive trying to understand what this perspective represents and here’s what I’ve come up with…

As long as there are personal opinions, biased “truths,” self-righteousness, manipulating motives, self-reflective judgements, conditioned assumptions, and habitual/cultural boundaries then this world will never learn to truly love, to take the time to understand, and to unconditionally accept one another.

Politics does not have to be about he-said-she-said-bullshit, about right and wrong, about good or bad, about money and power, or about taking sides. I think the American fore fathers did a noble thing by stating that “Every man was created equal,” but we have yet to see that mindset exist on a universal scale.

Replace hate, greed, selfishness, and personal opinions with unconditional love and see how much “change” is possible.

 

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Why do we fight?

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Fighting or arguing are outcomes of disagreements, misunderstanding, misinterpretations, assumptions, and judgments. Fighting doesn’t have to occur – ever. There’s no reason to fight, but it happens because… well… people think they’re right and they want to prove that out of a desire, habit, conditioning, or, perhaps, a lack of self. It’s obvious that no one is ever right because that’s just an opinion. Yes, I do believe that there are universals morals, values, trusts, and truths, but, at the same time, not everyone abides by them, is aware of them, nor defines them equally.

So, why do people have to prove anything? Why can’t we just give and take without a bias? That is, give an opinion and take another’s as merely a different opinion, perspective, understanding, or interpretation. It comes down to a personal desire to win. Think about it – winning is totally awesome and we’re taught from day one to not be losers. So, naturally, when it comes to a disagreement we tend to strive for an outcome that favors our opinions. But, do we really win? Does proving another wrong actually make us right?

Why not go for a win/win? Why not go into an argument with a win/win attitude – that no one is right or wrong, that all opinions will be said, heard, AND understood, and that if there still remains a disagreement in the end then a fair compromise or an agree-to-disagree solution should take place. The most important part in this is listening and understanding another person’s opinion or perspective. All-too-often we don’t listen to someone else talk or state their case because we’re too busy disagreeing, judging, assuming, and preparing a rebuttal in our own minds when they have the floor. To be heard and truly understood is one of the greatest feelings and approaches in a disagreement.

Try win/win. Try listening without bias. Try giving and taking equally. Try throwing out any rights or wrongs and understanding the situation for its universal truth. Try to talk peacefully without it resulting in anger, bitterness, or resentment.

 

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The struggle for understanding

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“The struggle for understanding is one of the most characteristic features of our species; that is why man is called Homo sapiens. The satisfaction of this urge is our destiny.”

I crave the concept of understanding; much due to my discovery and resulted blindness of my conditionings and mechanisms of what I believed to be “right.” My biggest downfall, if-you-will, was that belief…

“…the biggest of all blocks to improvement: the certainty of being right.”

I could only get so far in understanding myself because of what I believed in, and even that was ever-changing and ever-confusing… but I was just struggling to understand through my closed-off belief system.

It’s a crazy thing, this “being right,” because the word purely exists on an individualized basis. Right and wrong really don’t mean anything in the grand scheme of things. However, “being truthful” holds a more universal understanding. I think we all damn-well know what it means to tell the truth, to be true to ourselves, and to be true to others, but do we always listen to or follow through with our truth? Is it possible that we may avoid our truth, our destiny, our path to universal understanding by replacing it with opinionated and personalized words such as right and wrong?

“Dislike of a word may merely stem from the inability to grasp the idea behind it.”

I’ll go further to say the dislike of a concept, a universal reality or truth, or of a self-responsibility may merely stem from the inability to grasp the idea behind it.

Let that sit a little…

A great step towards understanding is to figure out what you do not understand, whether it is about yourself, another, a situation, an experience, or an outcome, because what you do understand may not be true. Try to remove your filters, your beliefs, your personal opinions, your personal judgements, your personal assumptions, your own definitions of right and wrong, and intimately question or observe through universal eyes. Be open, be sensitive, be patient, and be truthful.

All quotes via Hans Seyle’s “The Stress of Life”

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Define: Right and wrong

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To think we are right completely negates any possibility of being wrong, any possibility of other perspectives, any possibility of other ways to approach or carry out a situation, any possibility for others to have a say in the situation, any possibility for others to be right, and, most importantly, any possibility to learn from the situation and to learn about ourselves (to learn why we think we are right).

I’ve had my share of interactions where my approach to a situation was completely different than another’s and, since my approach was different, it was considered wrong in their eyes. No matter what sort of reasoning or explanation I tried to provide, I was not right. An open perspective from both parties would have helped much more – understanding the other’s approach rather than labeling or denouncing with biased reasoning.

I’ve been on the other side, too, (thinking I’m right) because of my reasoning, beliefs, or interpretations. And that’s where things can get crazy because we all have different reasoning, beliefs, and interpretations. Right and wrong are not facts – they are personal opinions or personal realities based off of our experienced beliefs (it’s a form of conditioning). We can each experience a situation differently; therefore, we can each define right and wrong differently. It’s very possible to be right AND wrong at the same time. For example…

How many faces do you see in the above picture? Take a few minutes…

There are two faces. One facing forward and the other facing to the left (<-). Let’s say this picture represents a difference of opinion between two people: the situation remains consistent (a picture of two faces); one person can only see one face while the other can only see the other face. No matter how much these people may argue I’m right or you’re wrong, it won’t make any difference because they’re not allowing themselves to see, understand, believe, or interpret what the other person sees. Both are right, but they cannot see the big picture (it’s unbiased truth) because they become blinded when they only address the picture on a personal level.

Next time you find yourself providing an opinion: Take time to understand why you think you are right. Take time to understand why you think someone else is wrong. What are your beliefs or interpretations? Why do they exist? What do them stem from? What deeper reasoning/experience do you have to believe in your definition of right and wrong? What makes you you? Can you re-think your thought process to look at a situation more objectively rather than subjectively? Can you admit that no one is right or wrong – that the situation is interpreted differently by two people and just by that realization so many doors can open towards understanding, empathy, and possible agreement?

How we see things truly defines how we interpret or define things – consider this concept for yourself and for others.

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Define through experience

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How can you define ease? By experiencing difficulty.

How can you define strength? By experiencing weakness.

How can you define success? By experiencing failure.

How can you define love? By experiencing loss.

How can you define happiness? By experiencing sadness.

How can you define patience? By experiencing impatience.

How can you define responsibility? By experiencing irresponsibility.

How can you define awareness? By experiencing unawareness.

How can you define comfort? By experience neglect.

How can you define acceptance? By experience shame.

How can you define heavy? By experiencing light.

How can you define white? By experiencing black.

How can you define high? By experiencing low.

How can you define rich? By experiencing poor.

How can you define full? By experiencing empty.

How can you define right? By experiencing wrong.

How can you define need? By experience want.

How can you define healthy? By experiencing unhealthy.

How can you define life? By experiencing death.

Written in Chinese, the word “Crisis” is composed of two characters.
One represents danger, and the other represents opportunity. (John F Kennedy)

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Mistakes

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To commit a mistake is not wrong – commit as many mistakes as possible because that is the way you will be learning more. But don’t commit the same mistakes again and again, because that makes you stupid. 

-Osho

While Osho is a bit blunt in his words, they hold some truth. But let’s throw out the word stupid. Let’s throw out the negative connotation of [continuous] mistakes. Are not we all on our own path? Are not we all learning at our own pace? Who’s to say that a continuous mistake is wrong when we learn the right in the end? In hindsight we can see where our path took a wrong turn, but can we argue that turn was necessary regardless of its time or the time it took to understand?

A perspective shift is in order for the word mistake and the action of making a mistake.

Why are mistakes considered wrong?
Why can’t we see within the moment that “wrongs” can actually turn into a future “right”?

Those very mistakes that we perceive to yield [temporary] failure can lead us to [eternal] success.

Everything that occurs is a culmination of perfection.
There are no wrongs. There are no mistakes.

With that mentality you don’t have to make a mistake ever again.
With that mentality you can only experience success.

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Define: Healthy

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Eat this, not that. This is healthy, that is unhealthy. These have antioxidants, that increases oxidation. This fat is good, that fat is bad. Carbs are good, carbs are bad. Coffee is good, coffee is bad. I’m right, you’re wrong.

What the hell is healthy anymore? Every day we’re told to do this, do that, don’t do this, don’t do that (yes, I’m a guilty party, too). Who’s to say who’s right and who’s wrong? Furthermore, who’s to say that my definition of right and wrong is the exact same as your definition of right and wrong? It’s im-freaking-possible.

I think society has bought into the desire for a black and white solution for health (amongst other things – come oooooon lottery ticket!), and that makes it very easy to capitalize at another’s expense. People tend to treat their symptoms of dis-ease with extremes – diets, pills, surgery, exercise, or vices – and rarely address the cause.  We all want to be healthy, but we also have our different reasons to be healthy and our different reasons for why we may be unhealthy.

With every study done there will be another study that completely negates those “facts.” And even the people who originally did the study may come out months from now saying to do this instead. The FDA renews the food pyramid every 5 years or so. But if that pyramid was full of facts and not biased opinions, then there wouldn’t be as great of a need for the medical industry or for me to write this blog. It’s good to research, learn, and listen to other perspectives, but you must ask yourself… what fuels that research, who is paying for those perspectives, and what other facts are out there that say otherwise? I’m speculating because think that holds true for the majority of what we hear on TV, on the radio, in magazines, and in published health journals by accredited doctors.

The only I can really approach this situation is to give the most general health/life guide that I can…

Learn about everything. Don’t believe everything.

Listen to your body and spirit for they know best.

You are a spirit, a mind, an ego, a child, and a body – understand who makes decisions.

Find a balance with everything in your life.

Build your path one brick at a time – life is rarely a straight, smooth path.

You are the only one responsible for your life and how you perceive your reality.

Accept yourself for who you were in the past and for who you are in this moment.

Forgiveness of self and others will open many doors.

Continually better yourself in the present.

Trust in the future and in yourself.

Be happy.

 

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